July 24th, 2013

Asshole attack on OkCupid

Having essentially given up on internet dating, I never use any of the websites where I still maintain a dating profile. Most of them are pay sites anyway, where you have to pay just to send a message to someone to let them know you’re interested. And then the guy never responds. Or if he does, it’s only to say “not interested” or hit me up for casual sex. The only one who gets anything out of it is the dating site, which is raking in the money. Why pay a dating site that’s doing nothing for me?

So, yeah. I’ve given up. I still maintain a profile on a few dating sites, but never use them. Every once in a while, some guy will send me a free “flirt,” “wink” or other free notification used by dating sites to let me know he’s checked out my profile. Sometimes I’ll have a look, briefly check out the guy’s profile to see if I’m interested, to see if we might have some commonalities. Nine times out of 10, we don’t.

OkCupid (aka, OkStupid; MehCupid) sends the notification themselves. The guy doesn’t have to send a “wink” or “flirt” if he doesn’t want to. OkCupid lets me know any time someone’s checked out my profile, which happens maybe once or twice a month, if that. I can usually tell by the guy’s thumbnail pic and username if he’s a match for me or not, and most of the time, it’s not. Every once in a while, I’ll get a good candidate, or at least one that doesn’t immediately turn me off, and will venture to check out his profile.

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